Transform Your Life by Altering Your Memories and Mindset
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Chapter 1: Understanding the Nature of Change
To alter the outcomes in our lives, we must first adjust our inputs.
Why do we behave the way we do?
This question hadn't crossed my mind until recently. In his book The Order of Time, Carlo Rovelli elaborates that, at the quantum level, what we perceive as objects are merely events. Everything is in a state of constant flux—some changes are more apparent than others, but everything is perpetually transforming.
This means that we are essentially a collection of events or layers of experiences. If our experiences shape our lives, what influences those experiences? Is it destiny? Chance? Intuition? While those factors play a role, there is a more concrete explanation.
Our Relationships
As Jim Rohn wisely stated, “We are the average of the five individuals we spend the most time with.” Our social circle significantly impacts our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Over time, our habits evolve, especially when we are surrounded by certain groups.
According to an article from Behavior Scientist, living with others leads to a kind of habit negotiation. We adopt or discard habits based on those around us. Research indicates that we tend to develop fewer habits due to increased “interruptions,” which hampers the subconscious formation of new habits.
Our Habits
These habits can either benefit or hinder us—highlighting the necessity of selecting our peer groups thoughtfully. But why do we repeatedly gravitate toward similar social circles?
Furthermore, why is it often difficult to break a harmful habit even when we recognize its detrimental effects? Part of the reason lies in our desire for self-identification. Our habits contribute to how we see ourselves.
We struggle to envision our identity—across past, present, or future—without these habits. But why is that?
Our Memories
Our recollections of the past, along with the emotions tied to them, shape our future experiences. We confine ourselves to our past actions, projecting them onto our future, reinforcing patterns that become increasingly subconscious.
Compounding this is our innate evolutionary tendency to anticipate potential future threats, which leads us to dwell on everything that might go awry. Although we believe our anxiety serves a purpose, it often leads us to experience these (mostly imagined) threats in our minds. This triggers negative physiological reactions in our bodies, which are then recorded as very real, negative memories in our brains.
Our Dreams
If our lives are a product of experiences, which stem from our relationships, shaped by our habits, and influenced by our memories—how do we break this cycle? We need to change our narrative.
By transforming our memories—or altering how we perceive our past—we can reshape our future through new experiences, relationships, and habits. Visualizing your ideal future as if you are already embodying it will inevitably guide you to become that future self.
This approach transcends mere positive thinking; it involves a profound shift from “Seeing is believing” to “Believing is seeing.”
This is the key to creating the future you desire, rather than being bound by the past.
The first video, "Rewrite your past and change your life," explores how freeing yourself from the constraints of past memories can open up new possibilities for your future.
The second video, "If You Want To Create Change In Your Life, Do This," shares practical strategies for initiating personal transformation and embracing change.